My Name is Connie and my child is a biter.
To me, Story is the sweetest 2-year-old on the planet. Her precious smile, infectious laugh and bright eyes seem so innocent. She could never be a biter. WRONG!! She not only bites, she scratches!! WHAT!? Not my child...well, thats what I thought. Until this week when she had, not one, but two, write-ups at school. It was kinda like a "real" girl fight. Another little girl was playing with a toy that Story wanted, so Story scratched the other little girl because she wanted the toy. The little girl reacted, like many girls do when a girl fight starts, she scratched back. That's when Story ended the battle by pulling a Mike Tyson and biting her finger.
My husband, Big B, texted me the news when he picked her up from school. I couldn't believe it, she's only there for 4 hours and she got 2 write ups? What was even worse was when he told me what the teacher said, "It happens a lot at this age. But its never happened with Story. She's always been so good." OH NO!! Story went from being sweet and innocent to the "BAD KID". Ok, maybe I'm over reacting but I don't want her to be THAT child...the one that was once good but is now BAD!
Of course I don't let her bite at home and if she does bite its off to timeout. But I had no idea how badly I'd want to go to time out after hearing she had done this at school. It was like, when it was at home, behind closed doors, no one knew the secret. Story was a biter! I wasn't a bad mother at home, because I could hide!!
Yes!! That is right where my mind went. I'm a bad Mom!! But I promise you I'M NOT. I have read EVERYTHING I can get my eyes on to help me deal with the biting issue. I talk to her and she knows how to say "NO BITE". But she still does it. When she bites me, she laughs, when she gets frustrated she bites her dolly. But I stick with it. I keep telling her no, I keep saying to be nice. I stick with the timeouts. I haven't bit her yet. One parenting book suggested it, while another book said "If you bite back, they think its ok." Man, these parenting books sure do confuse me!!
The honest truth is, I can't bring myself to bite my child like an angry rabid dog. Not my style. I like kisses and hugs best!! Fine, call me a softy. I really don't care...ok, maybe I do.
The worst part was when I got home and asked Story, "Did you get in trouble today at school?" She said, "Yes." I said, "Did you bite someone?" And with her sweet smile and bright eyes, she held up her finger and said, "On the finger". Yep. That's my little bundle of joy. Happy that she knew where she bit her little friend from school.
I guess I just need to look at the positive. Story is smart. She knows what a finger is. And she knows how to bite it.
Anyone know if there is a "Parents of Children who Bite" support group? I might need their number.