It's a pacifier...so suck it!!
Help!! It’s binky break-up time and I’m scared. Story is 19 months old and she still has a binky. I’ve ready article after article about when to take it away. Some say “As soon as possible” others say “At age 2 its time to pull the plug” while others say I’m the devil for even letting her have a pacifier. Who’s right? I really don’t know. But what I do know is I don’t want unsolicited advice! If I don’t know you please just walk on by, I don’t need your words of encouragement or your snide remarks. Guess what?! She’s my baby!!
Of course, I don’t want her to be sucking on a binky when she heads into kindergarten!! But she is only 19 months!! I’ve got a ways to go before school starts. I actually got into an argument with one lady in the Steinmart! She was shocked to see her sucking away. “Oh, look at you, cutie. Still sucking on a pacifier? Mommy should know better than that! You’re a big girl” Are you kidding me?
That’s ok, I think I slammed her when I told her “No, she isn’t 2 1/2 years old, she’s 19 months!!” Story is a big girl. I’m tall, Big B is tall. I’ve got me a big kid!! But size shouldn’t matter (at least when it comes to the size of a baby) what I decide to do with my child is my choice.
But here is where I struggle, is it really my choice? Society and other mothers sure frown upon the binky. Do I just do it my way? Or do I give into the societal pressures? Pull her off the plug now. If I did it now, sure the looks would stop but it’s not about me! It’s about Story.
How about this, you crazy lady, BACK OFF!! If I take it away too soon, she could wind up sucking her thumb until she’s 12!! Are you going to pay for the braces she may need later on? Or if I make it taste bad (an actual suggestion on babycenter.com) would you think I was abusing my child because I made it taste like dirt?
One thing I’ve learned in the short time that I’ve been a parent is this: she’s MY child. I know what’s best for her! I know what works for us! I don’t like that she uses the binky either, but she’s only 19 months!! She does have rules with it. If she tries to talk with it in, we insist she takes it out, which she does. Bedtime and riding in the car are when she wants it most. So its not like she’s sucking all day, everyday!! Why was she sucking on it at Steinmart you ask? Because she is teething. It feels good to suck and chew on it. That day, she was teething hard!! So I let her have it! SUE ME!
Sure, it would be nice to have a solid answer to this binky dilemma. But from the 9 million articles I’ve read, every child is different. I’m going to stick with our plan, doing it OUR WAY! But, if you promise not to make me feel like the terrible swamp thing, I’m open to suggestions….